The Dreaded Set-Up…


Hola,

Hey there my fashionistas. First let my start by officially wishing all of you a very happy, healthy and prosperous new year. We are on day twenty of 2014 and I hope you are already making the best of it. As for me, yes I know that I have been slacking on my blog posts lately. I have no excuses except that I need to step my game up. On a positive note, I intend on taking my goals to the next level. I’m in search of a professional seamstress who can help me get my designs made so if anyone knows of one, please comment below with their information or email me.  My goal this year is to take this all the way and this includes being more diligent with this blog. Please bear with me and let’s take this fabulous ride together.

So on that note, I thought I’d share an experience with you. It’s kind of like my first “HUH” moment of this year. I’m sure the majority of you can relate to this and will chuckle along with me at my little ordeal. I imagine that the title of this post is a dead give-away for what I am about to tell you. Yes, when your friends decide to set you up with someone…



Let me begin by saying that if you know me, you know that I am not a fan of being set up on blind dates, friendly dates or any other kind of “date” that you can think of. Nine times out of ten, it never works out as you’d expect and that one time it does is very rare. So for me to have accepted this time says quite a lot in itself. I was trying to be open-minded about it and hey, it was the very last day of 2013 and who knows, maybe it was a good sign for the coming year… HAAA!! Here’s how it all played out. Two very strange days to the beginning of my year:

On the afternoon of December 31st a male friend calls me at work to tell me about his co-worker who is a really nice guy, and he thinks that we have a lot in common and would I be interested in talking to him. I hesitated but again, I figured I’d be open-minded about it so in the end I said okay. When I first answered the call, we had visitors arriving for an event in the office and there were people standing around so I didn’t get a chance to ask for details or a description. I quickly said just give him my work email because I was not comfortable giving my personal number or other information. So later that day I get an email from “the guy” introducing himself and he includes his number. When I get home, I text him to introduce myself and we start a conversation. He did sound like a very nice person and the conversation continued for a little while.

On New Year’s Day, he sent a text early in the morning which kind of annoyed me because we’re not cool like that yet, and I was still sleeping. I take my time responding (remember, I don’t know what he looks like) and I keep things light. He texts throughout the day and I already felt like he was trying to take over my space plus, he was saying things like it was already a done deal that we were going to date – the bells in my head were ringing and the red flags waving. However, I’m still trying to go with it. He asks if I want to talk on the phone that night and I decline (you know, the whole taking over my space deal). 

On Thursday, January 2nd, again he texts super early in the morning and I was still asleep (now you KNOW I was super annoyed that he did it on day two!), I still had a good thirty minutes of sleep before waking up for work and he ruined it grrrr. I mean really, we are seriously NOT cool like that and yes, good morning texts are cute but only when they’re from someone that you actually like and have feelings for.  Anyway, let’s move to Thursday night…

I finally relent to talking on the phone and we talk for a few hours. He completely took over the conversation by telling me his whole life’s story which had me thinking oh lord have mercy! Furthermore, he was just acting and talking like we were already a couple which was freaking me out. He was talking about weekend getaways and asking where I would like to move to… Wait… What?! Move to? uhh, dude, I’m fine living in New York near my family and friends what the hell?! …and I still had NO idea what this guy looked like. Finally, I say listen did our mutual friend describe me to you? Did he say anything about me? We’ve been texting for two days and I have NO clue what you look like. He says oh yes he showed me your Facebook page. WHAT??? So all this time he already knew what I looked like and apparently, he liked what he saw while I was at a disadvantage! That’s when I’d had it and said you have to at least send me a picture because I cannot continue talking to you otherwise. He said he would send one as soon as we ended the call. We hang up and I go straight to sleep because it really was super late and this whole thing was just freaking me out.

The next morning we had the snow storm in NYC, and I wake up earlier than usual to confirm that our office was closed. I then check my email and this guy sent TWO emails with a total of EIGHT photos. EIGHT! That was my first WTF moment… The next was when I opened the first two photos!

… *queue stunned face* …


My first reaction was to blink and look again… then OH. MY. GOD! This cannot be him! I mean I expected just about anything but never, EVER this. Let’s just say we were so NOT a good match even if we did have a few things in common. I was shocked that my friend would even think to set me up with this man. I mean why? How? … My friends, my mom, my best friend’s mom all had the same reaction “OH MY GOD!” Everybody said the same thing: WHY would your friend think you’d be interested in this man? It was bad people, really bad. I was caught up in my worse set-up nightmare and now what do I do? I was offended, annoyed, pissed as all hell at being put into this situation. So I turned it around to the one who got me into this mess and I told him sorry but NO. I’m not interested in your friend. There isn’t and never will be any chemistry there. Let him tell the guy. I was as nice as possible but I really should have said how it was unfair that I didn’t get the choice of seeing a visual of what he was getting me into while his coworker had that advantage. Had I been given that choice, I would have declined from the get go and saved us all the trouble. There was nothing else I had to say to the guy so I just did not respond. I’m pretty sure he knew that would be my reaction because he did not insist. I’m sorry but I just couldn’t. I know you all are laughing at my pain. I just know it and some of you are shaking your heads at me at my reaction for punking out and not responding to the guy, but seriously… IT WAS BAD and I just couldn’t proceed with it any longer! Two days wasting my time and energy, but I learned a few very good lessons.





The first lesson is one I already knew but once again ignored it which was NEVER ignore those red flags, ringing bells or whatever you want to call them. They wave and ring for a reason. I continued on with this conversation regardless of the weird signals I was getting from this man. Our intuition speaks to us often but we tend to push it aside and forge on. Trust your instincts!

Next is don’t always trust your friends’ judgments when it comes to their choices in dating partners for you. Unless they know you like a book, it’s very likely that they will sometimes get it wrong and you’ll be stuck in a position like mine. This leads me to my next lesson…

NEVER agree to a setup unless you get an honest description or you are shown a picture before you agree to this already awkward and uncomfortable situation.


The last lesson I learned was never feel bad about your standards. We all have them and they vary by person. This is not to say that the person in question is not a really nice individual, but never disregard what you look for, what you want and need from the person you are going to date because you don’t want to hurt their feelings or your friend’s feelings. I agonized all day trying to find a nice way to tell my friend “WTF were you thinking!” Then I agonized on whether I should tell the guy sorry but I’m not interested or just let it be because again, I didn’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings. One of my best friends, Melissa, can tell you that I spent the whole day going back and forth with her, her mom and my mom trying to figure out the best way to get myself out of this craziness without being too harsh. The thing is, I was worried but my friend not so much. He was just like “no big deal, handle as you see fit.” Which was not a really great response from him given that he got me into this mess but that being said, I then saw fit to remove myself from this situation, ignore the guy and keep it moving. I didn’t owe him anything because we only chatted and talked on the phone for a total of two days. There were no promises made and no investment on either part. I feel like my friend should have handled this a lot better. I get that he had good intentions towards me, but he definitely went about it completely wrong from beginning to end.


So to the rest of my friends I say this:


PLEASE no matter how much you think you’re doing something good for me, I beg you to please give me all the details, descriptions and most important show pictures BEFORE going ahead and setting me up with anybody. Ultimately, it’s my decision on whether I want to go through with this as well as whether I will date someone, but it just saves us all the trouble of being caught up in a very horrifying and awkward situation.


I am perfectly fine being single so don’t think that I am going out of my mind because I’m not dating anyone or haven’t found the one to make me melt into little puddles of mush. Don’t think that I will settle for just anyone for the sake of being with someone because they are “really nice.” I will never do that. Just like love is not enough, being really nice is not enough either. There is so much more that plays into this relationship game.


We all have standards on what we are looking for in a partner, and while I’m not extremely picky (well maybe just a little lol) or set in my ways and am willing to make certain exceptions, I do need to like what I see. I need to feel attracted and feel that chemistry with someone. Otherwise, it will never work. Everybody has their own definition of beauty; we each have different tastes and likes and are attracted to different people. What one considers beautiful, another person doesn’t, but we all have our tastes in what we look for in a partner. We all tend to kid ourselves thinking “oh but it’s what’s on the inside that counts.” That’s all good and true in the long run, but the truth of it all is that when you FIRST SEE somebody on the street, on the bus, at a bar or restaurant, what attracts you to them is what you SEE. What we see is what makes our heads turn, what makes us say damn look at that guy or that girl; it’s what makes you want to talk to them and get to know them better. Do not kid yourselves thinking otherwise. This, my darlings is what the beginning of any relationship is about. You liked what you saw and you pursued it, you got to know them, liked them even more and boom… It’s the start of something that could be really beautiful if the feelings are mutual. Nevertheless, what started that something “beautiful,” was the attraction you felt when you first SAW that person.




Consequently, my nightmare ended on that snowy Friday on January 3rd. I was actually relieved because I already knew it would never work (those red flags and ringing bells again). He was already taking over my space and time and we didn’t even know each other. So my journey to find that special someone continues but in the mean-time, I am quite happy being single. I have so many things to focus on and wonderful friends and family to spend time with that there is no void of not having a special someone right now (well there is on some occasions of course, but I’m not stressing over it). When the right person shows up, I will know. However, I refuse to settle and I refuse to get myself involved with someone I feel nothing for just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I love myself too much to deprive myself of that wonderful relationship with someone who when I look at him, he makes my heart beat faster and brings that smile to my face and joy to my life. Someone I can talk to forever and the more we talk, the more I like. Someone who is the person I want to share not only the good times with but also the bad. Someone who awakens feelings in me that I don’t even know I have. Just someone who will come into my world to enhance it even more than it already is, and that this someone feels the same way about me… *sighs* 🙂

So that, my loves, was the beginning of my year. I know you’re laughing, smirking, maybe even judging my reactions. Whatever the case may be, you already know the drill. Please feel free to comment respectfully below with your opinions or perhaps you’d like to share one of your horror stories. I’m sure you’ve all been in my shoes at least once in your lives. Let’s compare. How did you handle your situation? How horrified were you? Did you continue on for the sake of not hurting someone’s feelings? Let’s discuss because in the end we have to look at this as a learning experience for the next one… Go! #engage

Until next time…

Gracias,

AnnaCris ❤


Note: Don’t forget my dears that if you know of a good, responsible and professional seamstress, please comment below or email me contact info to discuss a wonderful project. Thank you. 


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2014 Golden Globes… My Favorites


Hola,

How are my fashionistas doing tonight? I hope all is going well and cheers to a fantastic week for all of us.

So last night was the beginning of awards season in Hollywood with the 2014 Golden Globe Awards. This of course means that it’s one of the best times of the year for those of us who just die for fashion and glamour. I for one was glued to the red carpet show to see who my favorites would be this year, and I was not disappointed. I was ecstatic to see so much pops of color, many different styles and so many hits this time around. I had to go through the pictures several times to make a decision, and I will say right now that I have TWO best dressed this year because I just couldn’t pick between the two.

There were also a few misses but not too many which made me so happy. The ladies of Hollywood seem to be getting it together on what to wear. I was torn between a couple where I could not decide on whether they were a hit or a miss so I included them under the miss category only because I was really leaning towards that which is not to say that the dresses were a complete miss.

Well then… What are we waiting for? Let’s get started:



BEST DRESSED CATEGORY:

#6 – Kerry Washington in Balenciaga. Kerry Washington has become such a staple on the red carpet. It is rare that she misses and she hit it right once again. This dress is stunning on her and shows off her pregnancy in such a lovely way. She is glowing, her jewelry is just fabulous and her makeup flawless. The dress is simple but so elegant. I loved it the instant I saw her.

#5 – Olivia Wilde in Gucci. I thought she looked beautiful. This dressed accented her pregnancy yet it was sexy, glamorous and simply gorgeous. The green shimmer accented her eyes, the hair was sexy and her makeup gave her that natural, glowing look. THIS is how you do maternity on the red carpet. I absolutely loved her.
#4 Jenna Dewan-Tatum in Roberto Cavalli. I found Jenna while browsing the web because I might have missed her on the red carpet. When I saw this, I was like wow! This lace illusion dress in black and white was stunning and it showed off her curves beautifully. Her hair parted on the side and slicked back was perfect to show the dress off. I adore Roberto Cavalli and this sexy, glamorous dress shows why.
#3 Sofia Vergara in Zac Posen. Well of course you all know that I’d include Ms. Vergara. She is and will always be one of favorites and not because she’s a Latina. Well yes there’s that :), but Sofia is gorgeous, sexy, funny, and she always looks like she’s having a blast. I must say that I am so happy that she chose a different style other than her usual. This Zac Posen gown is beautiful on her and it still accentuated her waist and bust. Her hair long and sexy and makeup is flawless. The necklace could have been a bit toned down but it did add a kind of pop to the ensemble that caught your eye. Well done Sofia!

#2 – Margot Robbie in Gucci. I have yet to see the Wolf of Wall Street but Margot brought the sexy to the red carpet. This dress at first glance looks simple but there is no denying that the stones, the slit, the neckline and the shoes to match the stones made us all gasp. Wow! I want this dress. It is so gorgeous! The way she styled her hair along with her makeup and the earrings were all complementing but not taking away from this stunning outfit.

TIE FOR NUMBER ONE BEST DRESSED:

#1 – Cate Blanchet in Armani Prive. Oh My God! This dress is exquisite. I cannot find enough beautiful words to describe it. It’s sheer, it’s Chantilly lace, it sparkles, and it’s divine! Cate is another who rarely does wrong on the red carpet and she hit it out of the ball park last night. Her hair, her makeup and the jewelry all completed the ensemble but did not take anything away from this absolutely gorgeous dress. I bow to you Ms. Blanchet!
#1 – Lupita Nyong’o in Ralph Lauren. PERFECTION! That is all…

I mean how else can you describe this look? She’s beautiful, her makeup is stunning and this dress is perfection! Not many women can pull off a cape and Lupita has moved up to the “badass” category because she pulled it off without a hitch. She looks like a gorgeous superhero that can save the day and yet look glamorous, radiant, exquisite, divine and just PERFECT doing so! WOW! 

UNDECIDED CATEGORY:

#3 – Jennifer Lawrence in Christian Dior. I couldn’t decide on whether I liked this dress or not. It’s not completely bad but not attention grabbing and the black ribbons throw me off. I do love her hair. Jennifer is definitely rocking the pixie cut.

#2 – Julia Roberts in Dolce and Gabbana. I adore Julia but I couldn’t decide on this one either whether I liked it or not. I feel like without the top, the dress would’ve been simple but pretty. However, with the shirt top, it took something away plus it looked like it wasn’t tucked in properly. Maybe if it had been smoother and not bunching up under her arms and in the back, it might have worked better.

WORSE DRESSED CATEGORY:

#4 – Sandra Bullock in Prabal Gurung. It hurts me so bad to have to add one of my favorite actresses to the worse dressed, but oh Sandra… I just did not feel this one. I feel like the colors did not go well together and the overall style of the dress did not do much for her. I did love her makeup and hair though.

#3 – Zoe Saldana in Prabal Gurung. I know some people liked this dress, but I just didn’t. I feel like there is way too much going on here including the back. The shoes did not fit her properly and should have been a different style. The straps on her arms seem unnecessary and I did not like the way she styled her hair. It took away from the entire outfit.
#2 – Lena Dunham in Zac Posen. While this is one of her best looks, I still feel there is something missing. I love the dress it’s just the fit around the bust and hips doesn’t seem quite right on her. I feel like it’s the way she carries herself though. She needs to stand up straight, pull her shoulders back and work it. She’s getting there, I feel like for the next awards, she’s going to be a hit. I love the color yellow so I have to give props for that :).

NUMBER ONE WORSE DRESSED:

#1 – Paula Patton in Stephanie Rolland. Wait… What?!?! … I don’t get this choice for her. Paula is so gorgeous and has a stunning figure so WHY?? All those ruffles are a total distraction, completely pointless and just too much! Two thumbs all the way down!
There you have it my loves. My picks for best and worse dressed of this year’s 2014 Golden Globes Awards. I was so happy to see more hits than misses, a lot of color and just overall sexiness on the red carpet. I hope the hits continue throughout award season because I really do hate picking the worse dressed, but hey someone has to ;).

So what do you all think? Are you with me or not? I would love to know if there are others that you would have added to this list or omitted. Let’s discuss. I mean we haven’t chatted in a few months since I’ve been totally slacking on posting new stuff. No worries my dears, this will change starting now and what better way to start off this year’s discussions than with this topic? This being said, you all know the drill… feel free to comment respectfully below on whether you agree or disagree with my choices and why. Go! #engage

Until next time…

Gracias,
AnnaCris ❤