To End or Mend…

 

Quote Of The Week:

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This rarely happens though… Why?

When it comes to those we love, we can be so harsh and sometimes end up pushing those people away and losing them forever. Why?

Well…

People prefer to make assumptions.

They prefer to keep it moving, to stay quiet rather than talk things out.

The biggest mistake is ASSUMING and taking it to heart without confirming. Nobody knows what the other is thinking. It could be something completely different than your assumption, but here you are so sure that you’re right.

If someone offended or hurt you, they may not be aware. If you don’t tell them, how will they know?

What if in their eyes they did/said nothing to upset you? Would you rather leave things as is and just distance yourself with no explanation?

Such a shame! You don’t even know if the other side is open to talking. What ever happened to giving things and people a chance or to “innocent until proven guilty?”

“A simple talk can save millions of relationships.”

It’s as simple as that. Few make that effort though.

We’re all about keepin’ it movin’ these days.

We’re all about being so sure that WE are right.

We’re all about “I’m not going to say anything,” let them figure it out. Because we ALL have psychic powers… *queue sarcasm*

We’re all about not getting the facts and so quick to end rather than mend.

Such a shame!

There have been so many good relationships broken because we’d rather not communicate, talk things out and fix the problem.

And what about all the great times you had? Is it THAT easy to throw all of that away rather than being open to making things right again?

If the relationship and person is dear to your heart, wouldn’t you want to save it and keep that person in your life? That is the question…

So… Do you agree?

How do YOU handle difficult situations, fall-outs and/or misunderstandings? Do you confront (in a mature way, of course) or do you keep things in and let things build? Do you take the coward’s way out/easy way and walk away with no explanation never to be heard from again?

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been guilty of this many times. However, I’ve chosen in the past several months to change that and be more open. So far it’s done wonders. It’s a work in progress, but I’m willing to continue trying.

Communication is the key to any healthy relationship whether it’s a romantic one, a family member or a close friend. If you don’t communicate, how will this person that matters to you know what you’re feeling or thinking, whether they hurt or offended you, if you have a need that’s not being met? Without communication, there is nothing. Yet so many people choose not to. Why is that?

I found this quote on my Facebook photos and thought I’d start a “quote of the week” feature on my blog. I figured tonight is a good night to discuss this… I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject. Let’s chat. Go! #engage

Gracias,

AnnaCris ❤

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4 thoughts on “To End or Mend…

  1. Sometimes the hardest part is swallowing your ego and accepting the fact that who ever the misunderstanding or fallout happened with didn’t mean anything personally. People lash out in all sorts of ways when they’re stressed or upset or the biggest one, when they’re holding on to something the other person said or did in the past that may have unintentionally hurt them. However, the other person could be just as guilty when it comes to not being aware of his or her words. You think to yourself, why couldn’t this person think before speaking? How could they not see how this would make me feel? In reality, we choose not to believe that they didn’t think before saying whatever they said. Long story short, it’s really a two way street. It won’t work if you’re always trying to understand and compromise…but I do agree, maybe you could be the bigger person and start the dialogue. It’s not an easy task as often times the person you’re expressing your feelings to may still not understand what was wrong despite you pouring your heart out.

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    1. I love your response! Like I said to a friend who commented on my fb link for this post, life is not a one way street. It’s gotta be both. However, If the misunderstanding was a mis-judgement by one, then it’s on them to speak up because again, the other may not be aware that they did anything wrong. All in all, the important thing is that we need to learn to communicate rather than not. I think the world would be a much better place if we did.

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    1. Thank you Janice. Yes communication is very important if only more of us used it. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I loved your post. Some great tips for us who are somewhat newbies to the blogging world.

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