It’s In The Details… Date Night

Hola,

 

Hey there darlings! How is everyone doing? I hope everyone in the US had a fantastic Thanksgiving holiday with family and friends. Mine was great and gloriously quiet. I also did some work on my side projects which was quite fun.

Did you all get a chance to read my last post “Why Small Business Saturday Rocks?” If so, did you go out and support small business Saturday on November 26th? What did you buy? If you haven’t checked out the post yet, go have a look after you finish reading this one. It’s a topic dear to my heart as I strongly believe in supporting small businesses in our communities. So again, go read it and don’t be shy about leaving a comment.

So, since the holidays are in full swing, this is a great time of the year to surprise your significant other or someone you’re currently interested in with an all-out date no? I mean think about it … It would be so romantic because cities especially New York City, are decorated beautifully which adds an extra touch in itself. Plus lots of wonderful feelings are in the air. This being said, I figured I’d let you all know what I consider to be some of the best details to make a date fun, exciting and memorable. Remember how I always say that it’s the little things that matter? Well that phrase definitely applies to this especially for the ladies. We love all those little romantic gestures. It shows that you went out of your way and made an effort and that really counts. So let’s do this my darlings:

 

DATE NIGHT SPECIALS

 

 

FLOWERS

 

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Every woman will tell you that one of the cutest, most adorable gestures on a special date night is being handed flowers. They’re so pretty and girly and it shows that you made time to pick up something special. Remember that it’s not just about roses. There are so many different types of beautiful flowers so change it up a lil bit and pick some pretty colorful daises or something more exotic.

 

CHOCOLATE

 

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Yesss! Who doesn’t love getting a box of chocolates? I know I do. They’re so yummy and studies have found that eating chocolate is good for you. Is it not or did I just make up an excuse to get some? LOL! Whatever the case may be, showing up with chocolate can earn you major brownie points (pun intended) ;). The ones with the creamy chocolate on the inside are so delicious. So take my word for it and give chocolate. 😉

 

CANDLE LIGHT DINNER

 

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Okay, so I really want this lil dining set for two. It’s so cute! Anyway, sometimes you can make a date extra special by planning a lovely dinner at home. Where is this rule that demands that you have to go out on the town to have a special night together? On the contrary my darlings, I think it’s so much more special when someone takes the time and makes the effort to prepare dinner for you or just ordering something that you love like PIZZA! 🙂 Set the table with lovely dinnerware, light some candles, play some music and ta daaa…. A beautiful night! Or…

 

RENT A FANCY CAR

 

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Ayeee! The car in the photo is a Tesla, and I’m in love with it. If you’re more of the going out type, you can change things up by renting a fancy car for the night. By fancy I mean something completely different than what you would normally rent. There are companies that rent these types of cars. One example is the company “Turo.” Turo is a peer-to-peer car rental company that provides a selection of locally owned classic and rare cars that you can rent from the owners. How cool is that? Turo also makes it easy to rent. Just go on their website, enter the date you’d like to rent the car, and browse their selection. Once you’ve made your choice, book it and the owner of the car will confirm or deny your request within eight hours or less. For more information about renting a Tesla or other fabulous cars, check out Turo Rentals and see what it’s all about. I really want to rent the Tesla though, hmm… Must plan a date. 😉

 

GOOD CONVERSATION

 

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So now that we’ve covered the introductions and whether or not we’re staying in or renting an awesome car to go out on the town, at this point we should be about to sit down and chat it up. One of the most awkward moments during a date (mostly if you’ve just met) is avoiding “awkward silences.” OMG! Isn’t that the worst though? So keeping the conversation going from the very beginning is key to making it a special night. Ask questions, throw in a joke, talk about your likes and dislikes, and laugh a lot. If you’ve been dating a while, put aside your arguments and enjoy the night. My point is that both of you need to make an effort to keep everything flowing smoothly not forced. If you cannot have a great conversation with someone, chances are the date will end in a negative way. So let’s communicate people!

 

DELICIOUS FOOD

 

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These photos of food and chocolate are making me hungry. 😉 I love when someone picks a great place to eat. A place where the food is delicious, the ambiance of the restaurant is great and the service is spectacular. If the food is yummy, you will both enjoy yourselves even more. If you’re setting up the date, do your research and ask what the person’s favorite foods are. If you’ve been together for a while, you should already know so it’s easier to choose and surprise him/her. The majority of us love food, and I think it’s such a lovely detail when someone goes beyond to take me somewhere they know for a fact that I will enjoy.

 

SPA NIGHT

 

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Surprise your date with something totally unexpected and have a spa date night. Now this is for people that are already a couple because imagine someone you just met doing this… *queue blank stare* I know, it would be a bit creepy. LOL! So for those of you who are already a couple, change it up and schedule a spa night with the works as your date night. Hop into that awesome Tesla car you rented and don’t say where you’re going until you pull up to the location. Your mate will love it because WHO doesn’t like getting a massage? *winks*

 

DANCING

 

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And last but not least, let’s get our groove on. I LOVE to dance. I mean it’s in my blood. Dominicans teach their children to dance from the moment they turn two. LOL! Dancing is a sure cure for the blues, it’s fun and it’s great exercise. Even if you don’t know how to dance, why not have a date at a dance class? Pick a fun genre like salsa or merengue or the tango! Yasss! (I must try the tango). Trust me that even if you have two left feet, it will be one of the funnest nights for you. You’ll laugh, you’ll dance or sorta dance 😉 and you’ll work up an appetite for the delicious food I mentioned earlier. Get out of your comfort zone and try it.

 

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So there you have it my loves. These are just a few of the suggestions that I feel make for a fun and exciting date night. Whether it’s your first date or your 100th, I think it’s so important to change the routine up in any relationship. Remember that the little things always matter. For me, it’s the simplest details that always get me. So make an effort, pick something entirely different than what you normally do and have fun.

Well, what do you think? Are any of my suggestions on your list as well? What do you consider a fun, surprising night out with your love? Do you prefer going out or staying in and snuggling together? I would love to hear what’s on your list. I’ve left out a whole bunch of ideas because had I included them all, y’all would be reading forevs. Haa!

Alrighty then, you all know the drill… Comment and share your thoughts below. Let me know what you think of my suggestions, and please don’t be shy and share yours. Have you been surprised with a wonderful date or have you surprised someone with one? Either way, I’d love to hear about it. I mean there’s so much we can do right down to adventurous dates like zip lining, hiking, paintball. The world is our oyster so use it as much as you can. In any case, comment below and let’s start a conversation. Let’s help each other along because you never know who is need of spicing up their relationship *wink wink*. I look forward to your feedback. Let’s chat. Go! #engage

 

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Gracias,

AnnaCris ❤

 

The Dreaded Set-Up…


Hola,

Hey there my fashionistas. First let my start by officially wishing all of you a very happy, healthy and prosperous new year. We are on day twenty of 2014 and I hope you are already making the best of it. As for me, yes I know that I have been slacking on my blog posts lately. I have no excuses except that I need to step my game up. On a positive note, I intend on taking my goals to the next level. I’m in search of a professional seamstress who can help me get my designs made so if anyone knows of one, please comment below with their information or email me.  My goal this year is to take this all the way and this includes being more diligent with this blog. Please bear with me and let’s take this fabulous ride together.

So on that note, I thought I’d share an experience with you. It’s kind of like my first “HUH” moment of this year. I’m sure the majority of you can relate to this and will chuckle along with me at my little ordeal. I imagine that the title of this post is a dead give-away for what I am about to tell you. Yes, when your friends decide to set you up with someone…



Let me begin by saying that if you know me, you know that I am not a fan of being set up on blind dates, friendly dates or any other kind of “date” that you can think of. Nine times out of ten, it never works out as you’d expect and that one time it does is very rare. So for me to have accepted this time says quite a lot in itself. I was trying to be open-minded about it and hey, it was the very last day of 2013 and who knows, maybe it was a good sign for the coming year… HAAA!! Here’s how it all played out. Two very strange days to the beginning of my year:

On the afternoon of December 31st a male friend calls me at work to tell me about his co-worker who is a really nice guy, and he thinks that we have a lot in common and would I be interested in talking to him. I hesitated but again, I figured I’d be open-minded about it so in the end I said okay. When I first answered the call, we had visitors arriving for an event in the office and there were people standing around so I didn’t get a chance to ask for details or a description. I quickly said just give him my work email because I was not comfortable giving my personal number or other information. So later that day I get an email from “the guy” introducing himself and he includes his number. When I get home, I text him to introduce myself and we start a conversation. He did sound like a very nice person and the conversation continued for a little while.

On New Year’s Day, he sent a text early in the morning which kind of annoyed me because we’re not cool like that yet, and I was still sleeping. I take my time responding (remember, I don’t know what he looks like) and I keep things light. He texts throughout the day and I already felt like he was trying to take over my space plus, he was saying things like it was already a done deal that we were going to date – the bells in my head were ringing and the red flags waving. However, I’m still trying to go with it. He asks if I want to talk on the phone that night and I decline (you know, the whole taking over my space deal). 

On Thursday, January 2nd, again he texts super early in the morning and I was still asleep (now you KNOW I was super annoyed that he did it on day two!), I still had a good thirty minutes of sleep before waking up for work and he ruined it grrrr. I mean really, we are seriously NOT cool like that and yes, good morning texts are cute but only when they’re from someone that you actually like and have feelings for.  Anyway, let’s move to Thursday night…

I finally relent to talking on the phone and we talk for a few hours. He completely took over the conversation by telling me his whole life’s story which had me thinking oh lord have mercy! Furthermore, he was just acting and talking like we were already a couple which was freaking me out. He was talking about weekend getaways and asking where I would like to move to… Wait… What?! Move to? uhh, dude, I’m fine living in New York near my family and friends what the hell?! …and I still had NO idea what this guy looked like. Finally, I say listen did our mutual friend describe me to you? Did he say anything about me? We’ve been texting for two days and I have NO clue what you look like. He says oh yes he showed me your Facebook page. WHAT??? So all this time he already knew what I looked like and apparently, he liked what he saw while I was at a disadvantage! That’s when I’d had it and said you have to at least send me a picture because I cannot continue talking to you otherwise. He said he would send one as soon as we ended the call. We hang up and I go straight to sleep because it really was super late and this whole thing was just freaking me out.

The next morning we had the snow storm in NYC, and I wake up earlier than usual to confirm that our office was closed. I then check my email and this guy sent TWO emails with a total of EIGHT photos. EIGHT! That was my first WTF moment… The next was when I opened the first two photos!

… *queue stunned face* …


My first reaction was to blink and look again… then OH. MY. GOD! This cannot be him! I mean I expected just about anything but never, EVER this. Let’s just say we were so NOT a good match even if we did have a few things in common. I was shocked that my friend would even think to set me up with this man. I mean why? How? … My friends, my mom, my best friend’s mom all had the same reaction “OH MY GOD!” Everybody said the same thing: WHY would your friend think you’d be interested in this man? It was bad people, really bad. I was caught up in my worse set-up nightmare and now what do I do? I was offended, annoyed, pissed as all hell at being put into this situation. So I turned it around to the one who got me into this mess and I told him sorry but NO. I’m not interested in your friend. There isn’t and never will be any chemistry there. Let him tell the guy. I was as nice as possible but I really should have said how it was unfair that I didn’t get the choice of seeing a visual of what he was getting me into while his coworker had that advantage. Had I been given that choice, I would have declined from the get go and saved us all the trouble. There was nothing else I had to say to the guy so I just did not respond. I’m pretty sure he knew that would be my reaction because he did not insist. I’m sorry but I just couldn’t. I know you all are laughing at my pain. I just know it and some of you are shaking your heads at me at my reaction for punking out and not responding to the guy, but seriously… IT WAS BAD and I just couldn’t proceed with it any longer! Two days wasting my time and energy, but I learned a few very good lessons.





The first lesson is one I already knew but once again ignored it which was NEVER ignore those red flags, ringing bells or whatever you want to call them. They wave and ring for a reason. I continued on with this conversation regardless of the weird signals I was getting from this man. Our intuition speaks to us often but we tend to push it aside and forge on. Trust your instincts!

Next is don’t always trust your friends’ judgments when it comes to their choices in dating partners for you. Unless they know you like a book, it’s very likely that they will sometimes get it wrong and you’ll be stuck in a position like mine. This leads me to my next lesson…

NEVER agree to a setup unless you get an honest description or you are shown a picture before you agree to this already awkward and uncomfortable situation.


The last lesson I learned was never feel bad about your standards. We all have them and they vary by person. This is not to say that the person in question is not a really nice individual, but never disregard what you look for, what you want and need from the person you are going to date because you don’t want to hurt their feelings or your friend’s feelings. I agonized all day trying to find a nice way to tell my friend “WTF were you thinking!” Then I agonized on whether I should tell the guy sorry but I’m not interested or just let it be because again, I didn’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings. One of my best friends, Melissa, can tell you that I spent the whole day going back and forth with her, her mom and my mom trying to figure out the best way to get myself out of this craziness without being too harsh. The thing is, I was worried but my friend not so much. He was just like “no big deal, handle as you see fit.” Which was not a really great response from him given that he got me into this mess but that being said, I then saw fit to remove myself from this situation, ignore the guy and keep it moving. I didn’t owe him anything because we only chatted and talked on the phone for a total of two days. There were no promises made and no investment on either part. I feel like my friend should have handled this a lot better. I get that he had good intentions towards me, but he definitely went about it completely wrong from beginning to end.


So to the rest of my friends I say this:


PLEASE no matter how much you think you’re doing something good for me, I beg you to please give me all the details, descriptions and most important show pictures BEFORE going ahead and setting me up with anybody. Ultimately, it’s my decision on whether I want to go through with this as well as whether I will date someone, but it just saves us all the trouble of being caught up in a very horrifying and awkward situation.


I am perfectly fine being single so don’t think that I am going out of my mind because I’m not dating anyone or haven’t found the one to make me melt into little puddles of mush. Don’t think that I will settle for just anyone for the sake of being with someone because they are “really nice.” I will never do that. Just like love is not enough, being really nice is not enough either. There is so much more that plays into this relationship game.


We all have standards on what we are looking for in a partner, and while I’m not extremely picky (well maybe just a little lol) or set in my ways and am willing to make certain exceptions, I do need to like what I see. I need to feel attracted and feel that chemistry with someone. Otherwise, it will never work. Everybody has their own definition of beauty; we each have different tastes and likes and are attracted to different people. What one considers beautiful, another person doesn’t, but we all have our tastes in what we look for in a partner. We all tend to kid ourselves thinking “oh but it’s what’s on the inside that counts.” That’s all good and true in the long run, but the truth of it all is that when you FIRST SEE somebody on the street, on the bus, at a bar or restaurant, what attracts you to them is what you SEE. What we see is what makes our heads turn, what makes us say damn look at that guy or that girl; it’s what makes you want to talk to them and get to know them better. Do not kid yourselves thinking otherwise. This, my darlings is what the beginning of any relationship is about. You liked what you saw and you pursued it, you got to know them, liked them even more and boom… It’s the start of something that could be really beautiful if the feelings are mutual. Nevertheless, what started that something “beautiful,” was the attraction you felt when you first SAW that person.




Consequently, my nightmare ended on that snowy Friday on January 3rd. I was actually relieved because I already knew it would never work (those red flags and ringing bells again). He was already taking over my space and time and we didn’t even know each other. So my journey to find that special someone continues but in the mean-time, I am quite happy being single. I have so many things to focus on and wonderful friends and family to spend time with that there is no void of not having a special someone right now (well there is on some occasions of course, but I’m not stressing over it). When the right person shows up, I will know. However, I refuse to settle and I refuse to get myself involved with someone I feel nothing for just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I love myself too much to deprive myself of that wonderful relationship with someone who when I look at him, he makes my heart beat faster and brings that smile to my face and joy to my life. Someone I can talk to forever and the more we talk, the more I like. Someone who is the person I want to share not only the good times with but also the bad. Someone who awakens feelings in me that I don’t even know I have. Just someone who will come into my world to enhance it even more than it already is, and that this someone feels the same way about me… *sighs* 🙂

So that, my loves, was the beginning of my year. I know you’re laughing, smirking, maybe even judging my reactions. Whatever the case may be, you already know the drill. Please feel free to comment respectfully below with your opinions or perhaps you’d like to share one of your horror stories. I’m sure you’ve all been in my shoes at least once in your lives. Let’s compare. How did you handle your situation? How horrified were you? Did you continue on for the sake of not hurting someone’s feelings? Let’s discuss because in the end we have to look at this as a learning experience for the next one… Go! #engage

Until next time…

Gracias,

AnnaCris ❤


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