Uhh… Please Let Me Finish!

 

QUOTE OF THE WEEK

 

 

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Another favorite quote of mine!

I’m going to estimate that these words fit about 90% of the human population. Humans just refuse to give up the reins and just LISTEN.

Don’t believe me? Well, just go ahead and start a conversation with someone. Pay close attention to the moment when the other person doesn’t let you finish your sentence before they interject… Boom! I rest my case. It happens more often than not.

Let’s face it. Humans love to hear themselves talk. Very few have mastered that elusive skill called “listening.” When you listen with the intent to reply, you’re not really hearing what the other person is saying. You’re missing out on whatever emotion they’re feeling. You miss out on important details because you’ve already hit fast forward in your mind, and formed a response in your head without allowing the other person to finish speaking. It’s selfish and rude. Learn to listen! Show the person or persons you’re conversing with the respect to have their say as well. Here are some clues that give away this type of behavior:

  • If you interrupt before someone is finished telling you their story, you are not listening to understand.
  • If you continue to talk when someone tries to say their part in the conversation, you are not listening to understand.
  • If you talk OVER someone during a conversation thereby not allowing them to get their word in, you are not listening to understand.
  • If you manage to turn the conversation around to something about yourself while someone is sharing THEIR story, you are not listening to understand.

I know it’s ridiculous that a person can’t shut up for even a few seconds to let another person speak. It’s downright annoying and rude. Soooo…. How do you deal with these types of people?

I’ve gotten into the habit of not even bothering to join the dialogue. I’ll just look at them wide-eyed; sit back, cross my arms and just mmhmm and uh-huhh through the entire conversation. I mean if all you wanna do is hear your voice, then by all means knock yourself out. You obviously don’t value my opinion or feedback so why am I going to bother and waste my energy? And what does it say about this person that they can’t even quiet their mind and respectfully let you finish what you’re saying? Not much except that their highly inconsiderate and selfish. I rarely share my personal stories with people like this because they just leave you empty and sometimes worse off than when you started…

How about you? How do you handle people like this? Are you one of these people who already have the reply beforehand? Why do you suppose you do this? Aye, I have so many questions about this topic but let’s start a two-sided conversation here. Get it? 😉

So y’all know the drill… Comment below and let’s discuss. This is an interesting subject and I’d love to get some feedback so don’t be shy and share your thoughts. Let’s chat. Go! #engage

Gracias,

AnnaCris ❤

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Shhh… Hush… Don’t Tell!

 

QUOTE OF THE WEEK

 

 

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I LOVE this quote so much!

When I was a little girl, my mommy always told me this. She didn’t word it exactly this way (and of course, it was in Spanish) but it was the same message. It was so ingrained in my head that ’til this day, I try to live by these words. To have found it worded in such a lovely way by Iyanla was the icing on the cake.

“IF IT’S NOT YOUR STORY TO TELL, YOU DON’T TELL IT”

 

 

This quote to me described in one word would be “RESPECT.”

If I share good news with you and ask you not say anything just yet, don’t say anything. Don’t take that moment away from me by sharing it first. If I tell you something sensitive about my life and I ask you to keep it to yourself, then keep it to yourself. Don’t take my story and share it with the world if I ask you not to. Maybe I don’t plan to share with the world, but here you are… Y’all get the gist.

When you go ahead and share somebody else’s story without permission, you’re depriving that person of sharing their good news themselves. If they told you something confidential, by telling their story you’re betraying their trust. You’re basically showing no RESPECT towards their faith in you keeping that secret.

Learn to keep your mouth shut. Seriously, it’s NOT that hard. It doesn’t matter how trivial you think the story is, don’t tell it. Just HUSH! I’ve always made it a point to respect other people’s wishes when they ask me not to tell because I would like the same favor in return. It’s as simple as that.

So… what do y’all think? Do you agree with this or nah? Comment below and let me know your thoughts or experiences. I’m sure we’ve all been betrayed at some point by someone who told our story and shouldn’t have. It’s not a great feeling. What was your reaction? Let’s chat. Go! #engage

Gracias,

AnnaCris ❤